Your not a Mistake

When You make a Mistake, Don’t make Yourself the Mistake

In other words your not a mistake you just made a mistake. Often times as not we view ourselves as faulty and we carry this harmful thinking till reality bites and we take a hard fall because of it.

The Child Got the Blame

I have a friend that had a mother who blamed him for losing her husband. Because she got pregnant her husband refused to take responsibility and hit the road instead of being a good husband and supporting father.

He Felt the Pain

So my friend grew up with the knowledge that his mother’s emotional problems were caused by his entrance into the world. He knew the stuff didn’t make sense but he couldn’t shake the feelings that hung around inside his head.

He Realized that Was Then and This is Now

Finally I convinced him to visit a head doctor who helped me through some difficult thinking in my life having to do in part because my Mother failed to take responsibility for me when I was born. He first resisted like I did but in time he saw the wisdom of my thinking and visited the doctor who was born in Ethiopia. And his method of explaining life’s journey was priceless. In simple terms he explained that that was then and this is now. We had no control when we were young and what happened isn’t our fault. Now were older and wiser. Because of that we can look objectively at our childhood and say it wasn’t our fault. And then closure finds us and we find peace and closure.

Mistakes Are Normal

So if you think you’re a mistake may I boldly proclaim that this is not the case and understanding this should be a priority in your life. Hell we all make mistakes but that’s part of life and through mistakes we learn and learning makes us better at being human.

Makes are Useful & Keep Them That Way

So dump the mistake thinking and move to a higher level of emotional wellness. Isn’t it good to know that mistakes are normal and should never be related to who we are? I find mistakes useful and very helpful in making my life good for me. I hope my thinking has removed the mistake dagger that’s been sticking in your heart and like Dracula you find peace in your quiet place. I removed my dagger years ago and have found peace in my quiet place.


Don L. Terrill

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